Wednesday 13 March 2013

Trust ...holds two people together

In any relationship ultimately it is trust that holds two people together. It binds them in the love of their relationship and provides them with a sense of safety and security. If the trust in the relationship breaks, the relationship starts weakening and may lead to a total breakdown.


There may reasons why trust issues can develop in a relationship. The most important thing is to rebuild the trust so that you do not end up losing the most important person in your life. Check to see what are the small things you can do on a regular basis to rebuild the lost trust.

In order to rebuild trust in your relationship, you will first have to put aside all your problems. You will have to forget all the previous times when trust ended up hurting you. Even if you are worried that trusting a person will end up hurting you, you should still put aside those worries give your partner a chance to prove you wrong. You have remember that in order to make your relationship succeed, you have to make a commitment to trust your partner a 100 percent otherwise your relationship is doomed.




There is no doubt that when trust is already damaged it a relationship, it is hard to rebuild it. However, it is necessary to rebuild trust if you want the relationship to survive. You cannot expect a relationship to last long if there is no trust in it. If you have trust in your relationship, you will never question your partner’s motive. 

In fact, you will always have the security of knowing that your partner has the best interests in his or her heart.
Trust is an important aspect of any relationship -- be it with the person you love, your family, or friends. If you are having trust issues, it is about time you take appropriate steps to resolve those issues so that you can enjoy your relationship without having the dark clouds of trust issues hanging over you.




A relationship is always based on love and trust. However, you might be in a situation where you end up getting betrayed by the one person who is the most important person in your life. This would be one of the most devastating situations in your life but many times you might have to swallow your feelings of hurt and continue with your relationship as if nothing ever happened.


Any relationship requires a lot of hard work. A point to remember is that a relationship involves two people and the most important thing that a relationship requires is compromise. You will never have your way all the time but at the same time you should know when to say stop and put your foot down. A relationship is about giving and taking.


Sometimes you might feel betrayed by partner. This betrayal could be for something small as not keeping a dinner date or cheating on you. Not keeping a dinner date is quite a trivial issue can be forgiven. You have to be understanding and figure out whether your partner has a genuine reason. However, cheating is another matter; it is a serious issue. You will obviously be hurt and feel completely betrayed because a relationship is developed on mutual trust and if that trust gets broken, it can be quite difficult to rebuild it from scratch because the doubts will always be there at the back of your mind.




In cases of betrayal, it might help to remember the good times and all the love you shared with your partner. Many people end up blaming themselves for the partners’ indiscretion. If your partner betrays your trust and love, your partner has a problem and it has nothing to do with you. At times it might be because your partner feels neglected by you.

So, the best relationship advice on love and betrayal would be to have an honest talk with each other. Many times differences can be resolved and love enhanced still further. You also have the alternative of going for counseling if both are ready. But, never make a hasty decision which you may end up regretting. 

Effective communication is vital to a healthy marriage.
 If you think about it, besides sex, what builds greater intimacy? The truth is we talk to each other a lot more than we have sex.

 Talking to each other, learning how to talk to each other, learning how to effectively hear each other and saying words that can be heard by your partner is the basic building block of your true intimacy in the marriage. 

Few experiences are more gratifying than expressing yourself, saying something that is deep and personal and having it heard and received by your partner, having them understand and know you better.




Source: http://www.datingmingle.com/relationship-advice/Interpersonal-Relationship-Advice-On-Love-And-Betrayal.html

http://www.videojug.com/interview/communication-in-marriage-2

Tuesday 5 March 2013

Daging Butter Black Pepper

       ....Daging Butter Black Pepper....(15 min)..









Bahan:

Daging 1/2 Kg - Potong nipis dan lebar-lebar sedikit

2 labu bawang besar - mayang

2 ulas bawang putih - tumbuk

1 inci halia -tumbuk

9 btg cili padi - tumbuk (kalau suka pedas)

2 sudu kecil black pepper (lada hitam serbuk)

2 sudu cili boh.

kicap manis dan garam

4 sudu besar buttercup




Perap daging (400 gm) dgn black pepper, cili boh ,kicap manis sikit dan garam sikit.

 Dalam kuali leper..Panaskan minyak dua sudu makan. Biar panas betul. Masukkn daging ,

 let it sizzle sekejap. Sampai nampak garing

Baru kacau and goreng sampai air daging hilang, 

Masukkan bawang besar, cili padi , bawang putih dan  halia  
..
 Tambah garam sikit lagi... Kacau sampai nampak garing, kalau ada yg melekat kat kuali,

 tambah air sikit.. Kacau sampai tak melekat, goreng sampai air hilang, kecikkan api,

 masukkan buttercup 4 sudu besar
.
 Kacau .. Dah melt.. hidang

Makan dgn nasi panas yg lembut. Selamat mencuba.

Fire Chili Crab

Fire Chili Crab (Ketam Goreng Cili Api) -( resepi 10 min)

3 ekor ketam saiz besar
15 btg cili padi kampung - tumbuk
1/2 inci halia - tumbuk
2 labu bawang besar saiz sederhana -mayang
2 ulas bawang putih
sedikit garam, serbuk kunyit, serbuk jintan putih, serbuk ketumbar dan sedikit tepung jagung untuk gaul dengan ketam

Cara:
1. Panaskan minyak 5 sudu makan
2. Goreng ketam .. balik-balikkan dan tutup dengan penutup periuk sampai nampak dah masak. kalau boleh dengan api besar.. supaya cepat garing.
3. Masukkan garam sedkit...cili padi , bawang besar , halia dan bawang putih. Gaul dan goreng sampai bahan-bahan tu garing dan mesra bersama ketam.
4. Angkat dan hidangkan.